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- No blundering
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Chess makes me depressed (serious post) I Need Help
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TomPetty Don’t come around here no more, because his rating is free fallin’.
It will break my heart if no one gets that.
Don’t do me like that!
Don’t do me like that!
Can just say. The opening post made my day 🔝💯🏆👍👏
And the answer of @carlaspencer to it 👍🔝💯🏆👏
Hi,
I really love chess. Sometimes I think I see improvement & rating rise, to just see it fall again. Every blitz loss is a lesson I take very professionally. I keep on playing chess I know. I really love chess in a way that a sugar eater user might hate sugar.
Let me explain this, every day I feel the urge 4 playing. My typical day is that i feel reasonably happy, feel like playing some blitz chess, lose some games then feel depressed; It's a line I can get out of!
I like chess, I invest time on it for reward & growth.
Also I like the primal person I become, ready to fight!
I think I have an opporunity.
...here is help, help at all 4 an opportunity as this. Now I stay off poker sites.
I love my life because of chess.
I know somebody here can help me.
My life is a heaven!
Everybody wants 2B somebody; nobody wants 2 grow.
Goethe notes how everyone wants 2 B recognized and admired, yet no 1 thinks about reflecting on themselves as a person. Do not stop polishing & perfecting yourself, or stagnate then forget about growth; take care 2 not B trapped beneath the rubble of vanity. Get out of your feelings; they serve U no wellness.
Chess is just a game played for fun, and you shouldn't take it seriously in any manner. I know how annoying it can be, especially if you want to get better.
Remember that this game is just a form of entertainment, and if it doesn't provide you with fun anymore, then just get rid of it.
Heartbreakers like Tom Petty irk me.
Woollensock2 wrote:Don’t let chess take over your life . Just play and enjoy the game , and stop worrying about your rating points . It’s more important that you enjoy the game !
- wise words
Try playing (blitz or a game for which you have chosen the timing eg 15 or 20 or even 30 minutes) against opponents who are demonstrably weaker than you until you find that you are evenly matched, by which time, you will have learnt greater patience and will have eliminated some of the poorer moves that used to dog your game.
I speak from experience!
Fellow chess addict
Go to the national Depression Center
real (i hate chess so very much)
I try to play a game every morning when I get up, 30 minute rapid.
This game is a test of how my brain is doing that day.
The rest of my games are therapy. Desensitization to negative feelings from disappointment.
This game is a test of how my brain is doing that day.
The rest of my games are therapy. Desensitization to negative feelings from disappointment.
I don't know if it's a good idea to tie one's sense of self worth to the outcome of a game.
To really get free, the best is bet to remove Your account with all Your ratings, achievements, etc. in chess.com and all other similar sites IRREVERSABLY and never play chess other way than OTB (worked with all other games). I got myself a "present" and got a year-premium Diamond here... I think this was the worst of my decisions last year, and not gonna make the same mistake.
20 lost games in a row also make me conclude it's time to cut off completely from this game to play online. Chess is no better than any other game where in matter of just an addiction that gives more nerves than pleasure. Competition is another aspect that destroys the nerves. I hate competition and decided to play only people I know in RL, starting from today 
That is the only reason I keep account here.
DrSpudnik wrote:
I don't know if it's a good idea to tie one's sense of self worth to the outcome of a game.
In the world of chess skill is social credit, so to be a lower-rated player is to have trouble socially as a result of that, and no matter how much you progress, I doubt that kind of pressure goes away.
Ian_Rastall wrote:
DrSpudnik wrote:
I don't know if it's a good idea to tie one's sense of self worth to the outcome of a game.
In the world of chess skill is social credit, so to be a lower-rated player is to have trouble socially as a result of that, and no matter how much you progress, I doubt that kind of pressure goes away.
Excess ego tied to results has two possible outcomes: the person who feels low self-esteem and gives up on the game or just feels badly about themselves, and then there is the angry clown who slams the clock, mutters obscenities at his opponent, throws pieces, cheats etc. when his position starts going badly.
The only thing I can recommend is that one treat the game as a game and to challenge oneself to do the best to win, regardless of the opponent and to try to learn from a review of the losses.
I used to feel similalry playing at the cafe late at night. I would stay up all night playing blitz sometimes until sunrise. Never really getting good at the game because I was playing too fast. Slept in late the next day wasting my youth away. Then going back the next night to play some more. Some of the best days of my life.
Tom Petty, I had a look at your profile, you are a pretty good player overall. I can only dream of having a rating as high as yours.
I think if you get yourself a sympathetic chess coach, (s)he will be able to help you deal with the emotions better as well as help eliminate some of the mistakes that are costing you games.