Rude players

Just recently, on another site, I encountered behavior I would not believe possible of a chess player.  After winning a game, my opponent sent me literally hundreds of messages talking about how terrible a player I was and how it was pure luck that I had won, and how he had a won position before I had "gotten lucky through my stupidity, after making such @#! terrible moves" and "worthless tactics" that he "saw straight through" and other degrading comments.  I just put up this topic because I seem to be playing a lot of classless players, and am I just having bad luck with my opponents, or is the vision of the chess player as a gentleman (or woman) going to the dogs?

Sorry to hear about your experience.  Some people are rude, especially with the anonomity of the interwebz.

I am sorry for what you had to go through! There are of course a few trolls at chess.com as well but I honestly believe that the"Troll/Decent person- ratio" is very good at this site. I have gotten in touch with a few extrodinary members during my time at this site. Folks that really have been friendly and helpfull. I hope you will be as lucky!

I think the prudent thing to do is like getting an obscene phone call ... you just "hang up". On the otherhand, I am not always prudent and so like to respond with things like: Yes, I AM terrible! You are the only one I can beat! In fact, this is my first win ever! I thought I was the worst~! I thank YOU, thank you Very Much!

Or in a bad mood, they may get a free psycho-analysis of low esteem behaviors ...

OR the very hardest thing to deal with ... just keep Complimenting their brilliant play. But that is a bit like yanking the fish out of water without giving it any play ... for they tire very quickly of hearing you agree with them.

In the particular case You describe here tho, I do believe I would favor the response: "Thank you sir! It takes a real sportsman to see all that You can see and Still elect to blunder~! My hat is off to you~!"

Wow, s/he was really p**d off with you, s/he must think they are the bees knees. I have found a few arrogant players whilst playing on this site (even thou this is the best site in the world), I have even started and joined in forums about them. I have found the best way to deal with them is to say that you are very disappointed that they turned out to be so arrogant as to imagine they could beat you, (even if they do beat you, it makes them stop and think, What, ? what's going on??) Then leave them to it disable their chat, and block their message's to you. If that doesn't do it. complain but clicking on the abuse button. I'll tell you something for nothing, learn real quick how to deal with rude and arrogant people, cause you will meet of them in your life. Best of luck to you. You've joined the best site, and there are very few nasty players on here. I have found almost everyone to be lovely to me. Kind and very helpful. 

I *COULD* say something like "That's what you get for playing on another site", but I won't. :-)

I can sort understand the bad sportsmanship that drives people to be jerks after they lose, even if I don't appreciate it--it is a desperate attempt to boost their fragile egos.

But who I find more hard to understand are the people who are bad sportsmen when they win, who start mocking and insulting the person they've beaten. :(

But, .....    you did say it, Josh.   

Sorry about that -- I was going through a difficult time in my life.

I personally like to agree with them, but as beronderkilt mentioned it does end it quickly cause they tire of you agreeing with them.  Thats what i do on a good day though.

   "It's no crime to escape.
There's still time, so escape." - Eddie Vedder

Save those messenges and add them here please. In a game I played recently they had a thread with comments from people who whent nuts when they got beatned. I know these things might make you feel a bit sad at the time but they might be quite pathetical and funny to read :)

Regarding what to do I think the best thing to do is to say that they where really that great and that it's a wonder that you beat them. They usually stop sending messenges then, but if you want some fun stuff you can write like  BaronDerKilt wrote in the start. Start messing some with them, they started so they deserve it.

Yea I got one here - everytime I won he accused me of using a computer and calling me an idiot for doing so. After I pointed out that my grading might be a little higher were I using a computer, and would it really have missed his rook being en prise for 3 moves, he went away.

My favourite tactic is simply to point out that I WON and HE LOST! HA HA HA.

:-))

And what about players who are losing the game but don't want to surrender and just doing the same move again and again?

My opponent even used his conditional move for 6 times the same move!!

Rude players can be found everywhere. For the most part they are sore losers but there are sore winners too. My favorite experience was an opponent I was playing against lost on time. This was followed by a rude message saying I was a lousy player and if he hadn't run out of time he was in a winning position and I would have lost quickly. I'd already beaten him in a previous game and I had a large gain in material (I was down a pawn and a bishop while he was down 3 pawns, 2 bishops, and his queen). Rather than argue the point with him I chose the high road and deleted the message without replying. If you can't lose, for any reason, with respect for your opponent why bother playing?

 I actually cant se something wrong with that, if the game is won then win it. That he is using the conditial move is great then you dont have to wait for him to move. If you are winning the fact that he is doing the same move over and over again should just benefit you.  

Chess is an argument.

Some idiots take it personal.

Only an idiot is rude on the internet when winning or losing...  

When you match witticisms with an idiot, be careful that you aren't matching your intellect with his as well.

easier to delete the rude comments without responding, as mpetten astutely observed.

What he did was wrong but I could be misconstrued for a rude player as well. While I wouldn’t even consider doing something as immature as that, I rarely say “good game” or accept rematches. I guess I’m just lazy but I mean nothing by it.

I hope your next Chess game, goes well.