Chess.com = your actual rating. Lichess = your rating plus 500. Chess.com definitely.
Lichess or Chess.com
I've never even looked at lichess as yet, so no opinion. Was hoping to see some substance in this thread, comparing the features for example, or if less cheating or more, bot styles, interfaces compared, whatever. I'll check back; hope to see more than just "site A good, site B bad". Also there are more chess sites than just the Big 2.
vote in the chat!