I have experienced that same problem. Also I don't like the blitz chess (5 minute games ) as well as turn based chess. One feature that I do like that I don't know if everyone is aware of, instead of 5 minute games you can set games for 30 minutes or I haven't tried it yet but maybe 60 minute games. This is a more realistic setting. I think it is as close to a real game as you will find on the internet. Also if you set the games correctly as you make moves you receive additional time. The reason I like the ability to change the setting is you honestly can not have a game in 5 minutes.
I think another solution would to invite friends and set up a time to go to live chess ahead of time meet and have a game.
I have uncovered a major problem with our Beta Live Chess Site! Not enough players are trying it. Wow, what a site. I have found a couple of players there and was luck enough to get in a couple of games. If you like chess, you have got to try this place out. It is working great except for the low turnout.
Now is the time to get use to the fast pace action that this site offers before the ratings get reset (I know, I know, not everyone believes in ratings).