I haven't discussed chess or teaching chess with anyone before, but I would like to describe my method of teaching chess moves which I have used with children and adults. To make this fun for steps 1-5, the goal of the game is either be first to get a pawn to the other side of the board or be the last person with any pieces.
(1) Start with just the pawns.
(2) Add the knights. Their movements are complicated, so it is best just to have knights and pawns.
(3) Add the bishops.
(4) Add the rooks.
(5) Add the queen.
(6) Add the king and make the goal to capture the king.
Has anyone used this teaching strategy?
I have an almost five and an almost 8. I have not gotten so far with them, but here are my thoughts:
(1) never let them win is just dead wrong, at least for my kids. if they never win, they have no interest. I do tell them I am not trying my hardest, they understand that on some level but still get excited when they win;
(2) wait on teaching checkmate. Its a totally unnecessary complication at first. All our games end with the king being taken. It may make sense to teach how to checkmate first to an older kid, but its going to bore and frustrate the young.
(3) "problems" are not something they are generally into...they want to play with all the pieces. About the only thing I insist on sometimes is a knight mini game (because moving the knight is hard) ...I put 4 or 5 pawns randomly around the board and give the older one 20 moves. I have also done a hit-every-square minigame, using checkers to note if the knight has hit that square.
(4) I just play like a moron, leave a ton of pieces hanging for lengthy periods (including my king), and try to kill as many pieces as possible with my king. I give a few super-basic tips now and then (dont just move your pawns, take your pieces out) and occassionally say something like "oh no! I made a terrible move" and then help them figure it out. Some tactical learning is taking place, I'm sure of it. Everything else can wait.
Thats it. Yesterday I "won" by taking my youngest's king with my own king. Fun was had by all.
This is very similar to the approach I have with my 5 year old. Having played like this for 6 months or so, she seems to love playing and asks me to play all the time.